Just So You Know.

subgirlygirl:

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. Maybe no one told you that. Maybe you were told quite the opposite: All submissives do it, it’s just part of being submissive.

That’s simply not true.

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. Someone can want it, desire it, even expect it in their relationships. But there is choice. And just as they have the choice to expect, you have the choice to deny. They may want it, desire it, expect it. But they cannot demand it from someone who says No, I do not want that.

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. Despite the blustering that often rings loudly in these halls, it is not required. It may be a requirement for them, but it is not a requirement for everyone, I assure you. And refusing it does not banish you to the Submissive Hall of Brats and Inadequates.

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. But know that for some, asking for it is a huge step, and the flavor of your refusal can soothe – or sting. If broached gently, respond in kind. If asked from a place of caring, respond with care.

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. Maybe at some point down the road you will change your mind and The Thing won’t seem so bad, or scary, or distasteful. Maybe you’ll start thinking about it in a new light. Maybe you’ll want to dip in a toe just to… see.

(And maybe you won’t.)

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. You might be scared or confused. You might feel your inexperience is clouding a commonality, something Everyone Does. You might feel you’ll lose them if you say no, that no one will want you unless…

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. There are so many people and so many ways to connect. Sometimes we match up in glorious, beautiful, thrilling ways. Sometimes we don’t. But you will find your match. You will.

You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t.

I hope you know that.

© subgirlygirl.com, 2015

femsubdenial:

She was initially able to strain on her toes with her knees straight.

Her hands flail to find a grip to pull herself up, but it just isn’t enough. The tight belt around her waist keeps her from thrusting forward… but the dildo does, too. Combined, they ensure that her clit meets that vibe with pinpoint accuracy. All she needs to do to rest her clit is to straighten her legs again, but her thighs are already trembling from the effort and her natural instinct to squeeze her legs shut is just making things worse.

Twenty-One Days – review

femsubdenial:

minddiver:

File Type: Orgasm Control

This is another free one by ViVe.  Before listening to the file, the listener is expected to tie 0 to 7 strings around their ankle.  Afterwards, for the next twenty-one days, the listener will not be able to orgasm unless they cut a string first.  They can edge all they want (and I seem to remember that being tacitly encouraged), but in order to cum, they must cut a string.

There are a few interesting provisions to this.  First of all, there is an explicit warning that if the listener tries to use more than seven strings (or if they use none at all), they will be unable to get off at all!  Again, that’s for twenty-one days!  Act with care!  Second, if the listener can cut a string as early as they want before they want to cum, but they get one chance and no more.  So, if you cut a string a few hours before getting laid, get bored and stroke a bit beforehand, you just wasted a string.

The last provision has to do with edging.  Vive uses the image of a rubber wall blocking the listener from the edge…the more you push on the wall, th emore force pushes back.  If someone is tenacious enough to push through the wall, far from being rewarded, they will subconsciously ruin their orgasm.  If you read the reviews one the site, you will see one account from someone who tried.

Overall, the suggestions are solid, and ViVe is nothing but thorough in planning for any loopholes.  What ensues can either be a three-week lone edging stint, or an exercise is planning and self-control.

I started this one a few days ago, and I am already feeling the burn.  It’s already a bit frustrating at some points.  I am digging how turned on I am, though.  The only thing that worries me is the possibility of the strings slipping off or something.

I actually wound up borrowing some of my wife’s red yarn for this.  This file is a bit more out-there than we’ve messed around with in the past, so she was a bit surprised that I’m trying this.  She did find the motivation behind it-that I’m saving my orgasms for her-to be very sweet of me.  She also said that seeing me doing yoga with the red yarn tied around my ankle made me look like a warrior.  🙂

Anyway, while I wouldn’t recommend it for the timid, here’s the link:

http://www.vivehypnosis.de/?p=2783

Make sure you read the comments section.  Even if you decide this file isn’t for you, they are kind a hot read.

Whoah. What a hot idea!!!

ViVe is very prolific on WarpMyMind.com, too.

femsubdenial:

the-lady-rose:

There’s something so primal about the intensity I feel before and during my period. The mood swings can be a bitch and a half, but there’s something about feeling so vulnerable that you could cry at every moment. There’s something so beautiful about feeling every emotion at its most raw depth – anger, sadness, happiness, love. Like, when I’m at this point in my cycle one minute I could start crying hysterically cuz I’m that stressed about losing my keys; and the next minute I could be crying cuz I’m looking at pictures of puppies and I just want to love them so. fuckin. much. One minute I could be so seething angry I feel like the hulk bursting out of my clothes, ready to smash anything in my way – all cuz some assholes cut me off on the road. Then the next minute I want to be completely drowned in cuddles with the love of my life, kissing, and becoming sentimental over everything as if it’s our last night together. It’s fuckin ridiculous, and a super dramatic experience; but for as much as I hate it, there’s something so raw and unhinged about my hormones running rampant in this way. There’s something so cleansing about crying this much within a week; you’re literally letting all the bad juju bleed out.

The fact that I just wrote about romanticizing the hormonal experience of PMS clearly shows I’m in the thick of it right now. I need to find some chocolate or something…

This is off topic for my blog but I love this!

I don’t mind PMS, I don’t mind that it affects mood and thoughts and opinions, what I mind is when someone doesn’t recognize/admit that it’s coloring their opinions and lord help the poor idiot dumb enough to dare to point it out. And here you are, rather than trying to stamp it out or hide it, you’re embracing it instead!

I absolutely. love. this.

In fact, right now, this very moment… I don’t have any wine open but I’m going to fix myself a drink and toast you as I press “Reblog”. Your fiance is a lucky man. May you ride every storm together, with exhilaration and lust for life.