crimson-uncovered:

Calling your submissive “clingy” is damaging.

When you submit to someone, you give them your all. You spend a significant amount of emotional energy on wanting to please them and spend time with them. You’re owned, and in a way, so are your thoughts. So are your feelings. 

It’s devastating, then, when you’re told that you are too much. Too needy for attention. Too demanding. You make yourself vulnerable to this person by allowing yourself to show genuine affection, only to hear that they want less of it. That hurts. You feel annoying. You feel like apologizing for caring about them. You feel like they don’t want you as much as you want them, and that has got to be one of the worst ways to feel in a relationship. 

I felt it, and it fucked me up. It made me too afraid to show affection towards people I genuinely care about, lest I scare them off. It made me push people away and hide my feelings. Who wants to be the “needy girlfriend,” right? 

Scew that. I am a reasonable person. I will not be demanding endless amounts of your attention, especially when I know you’re busy. I will not be blowing your phone up with messages and then sit around and wait for a response. I have things to do. But if you own me, that means I love you and it’s mutual. That means you’re getting every ounce of my affection, and I expect you to want it. If I’m yours, I’ve already determined that you deserve it. But you also have the responsibility of reciprocating. It doesn’t have to be on my level. I don’t require heart-eyes emojis; that can be my thing. I just need to know that you care, too. Calling me clingy, needy, or demanding is a surefire way to make me think that you don’t. There are plenty of ways to say, “Kitten, I’m busy but I’ll talk to you as soon as I have a moment, okay?”

The bottom line is that calling me clingy means you’re not worth clinging to.

female-orgasm-denial:

A rebel, a figher, a lioness, that’s how everyone else saw her, that’s how she’d seen herself, until she met him. He’d never demanded change, but with soft words and even softer touches he’d tamed her, using her pleasure against her, making her crave his denial, thrilled when his lips whispered, ‘no’.

For the others, and the sake of her pride, she maintained the façade, but this is where she longed to be, powerless, teased, aching…his. 

The façade would not last much longer, and she didn’t care any more.

female-orgasm-denial:

She writhed in desperation at this pleasure filled torture. She was SO close, just a little more pressure and she’d go over. But he knew that, he knew exactly what he was doing, she could see that wicked smile on his face. He easily resisted her pushing. This was all she’d get.

Licking, sucking, heavenly torment.

She’d given up begging for a ruined orgasm ten minutes before. ‘Not today darling’ was all he said before he resumed his perfect stimulation.

She was torn between never wanting it to stop and being unable to cope with more. When he finally did stop she knew what awaited. His perfect cock hard in her mouth as she quickly brought him to the climax she was never allowed. Her pussy dripping as she listened to his soft moans of pleasure and release. His sperm, in her tummy, ‘the first meal of her day’.

And then she’d turn, bend over for a final kiss and touch from him before he slowly slid the plug in her he liked so much. A reminder all day of his power over her, never able to completely ignore it, always reminded what lay in store for her when he got home.

And her clothes picked out, sometimes just the lingerie, sometimes the whole outfit. But no panties, just stockings. No, he liked to keep her bare under the beautiful dresses and skirts he bought her. Another reminder, her cunt, her body, her orgasms, belonged to him.

introtobdsm:

so you are interested in bdsm, huh? whether it be because you read a book like fifty shades of grey *shivers* or you are just curious, here are some links to help you start out!

What does bdsm stand for/what is it?

Bondage

Discipline 

Dominant/Dominance/Dom/Domming

Submissive/Submission/Sub/Subbing

Sadism/Sadist

Masochism/Masochist

Types of Dom/Sub Relationships

Is BDSM always sexual?

Is the man always dominant and the female submissive?

I’m a feminist and submissive. Is that wrong?

Can i be trans/do i have to be straight to be into bdsm? Heck no! bdsm does not discriminate the kink/fetish community is one of the most accepting communities. so go on and be yourself we wont hurt you (unless you want to be)

So what’s wrong with fifty shades of grey?

*please note there is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality and fetishes. there is nothing wrong with enjoying 50 shades of grey as long as you recognize that Christian Grey is not the role model for a good dom

Sub drop/ Dom drop

Aftercare

Signs of an abusive bdsm relationship

Places to meet people interested in bdsm

Where to get toys

BDSM on a Budget

Misc.